Session Date :28th Oct, 2018,
Resource Person : Dr Vidya Bhate
Session -Parenting -Through the lens of child’s personality
Objective of the session
- To make the parents aware about
- The Concept of Multiple Intelligences
- Understanding the Learning System of The child
- Understanding the personality Type of the Child
The session included the following:
The session started with meditation.
The started with a discussion on the following three questions:
- How much time did we meditate for? If we find sitting quietly for 8 min so difficult, what are we expecting from our children?
- Why are you a part of this group? Is it important? Why?
- Are mark everything? Is a child soring a high percentage more intelligent than the one scoring less?
- Parents and Parenting Styles
In psychology, parenting styles represent a specific psychological construct. Parents were introduced to the various parenting styles and were asked to identify in which style they fell into.
- Autocratic: In this style, the parent dictates and the child has to follow.
- Permissive: In this style, the parent often gives in to the child’s demands
- Authoritative: In this style, both the parent and the child are at one level and understand each other.
Emotion plays a very important role in parenting. Parents were asked to name a few emotions. They were made aware that:
- Your reaction to your child’s tantrum is very important
- It is important to give time to understand how your child is feeling
- It is better to wait for an appropriate moment to talk to your child than to react to a situation immediately
- It can be very helpful to share your trigger points with your children
- Togetherness is very important
Intelligence is basically the ability to understand and grow. Children have different types of intelligences:
- Linguistic intelligence (word smart)
- Logical-mathematical intelligence (number/reasoning smart)
- Spatial intelligence (picture smart)
- Bodily-Kinesthetic intelligence (body smart)
- Musical intelligence (music smart)
- Interpersonal intelligence (people smart)
- Intrapersonal intelligence (self-smart)
- Naturalist intelligence (nature smart)
The following was discussed:
- What are schools doing for Multiple Intelligences?
- Is it right to label children as ‘ADHD’?
- Do teachers understand ADHD?
- How can Multiple Intelligences be groomed?
- Activity time
Parents were given ‘Intellectual development Activities’ as a demonstration of how stimulating they are for children. Parents were asked to pay particular attention to their thoughts while they were at the activities.
- Learning Styles
If parents / teachers are able to identify the learning styles of the children and teach him / her accordingly, it becomes easier for the child to learn. The different types of learners are:
- Visual Learners
- Auditory learners
- Kinesthetic learners
- Tips for Parenting
- Learn to ignore some things
- Nowadays children are unable to face difficult situations. A conscious effort should be made to develop this ability in children.
- If parents are anxious, the anxiety gets transferred to the children. So parents have to learn to calm themselves.
- Provide reasons for rules
- Demonstrate about respecting others
- Maintain a balance between discipline & affection
- While praising your child say, “You must have been proud of yourself,” instead of saying, “I am proud of you.”
- Engage in your child’s school
- Seeking Help
Parents were asked to seek outside help (relatives, doctors, counsellors, friends) if the following symptoms were observed in their children.
- Throwing tantrums
- Behaviour problems
- Performance Problem
- Demanding behaviour
- Tendency to harm him / herself
- Sharing Circle
The sharing circle was introduced for the first time after this activity. The question for sharing was, “What intelligence do I think my child has? What am I doing as a parent / family to nurture the intelligence?” The following were some 0interesting examples of what was shared:
- “My daughter shows linguistic, logical and kinesthetic intelligence. She tells stories and I encourage her in it.”
- “My daughter learns through singing out the work. She has made a song on the periodic table. She dances and learns physics and chemistry.”
- “I used to work outside and I used to leave my daughter in the day care. I observed that she had become very silent and observed that she like being with me. She has learnt to cook so that she could spend time with me. Now she makes many dishes really well.”
- “ My daughter has linguistic intelligence. I have taken special efforts to encourage her. Right from an early age, I made sure that while talking in one language, words from another language were not used.”
There were 13 participants for the session